Group discussion - Soulmates
A very big hi to all ikolam friends!
I don't know how many of you will stumble upon this topic that I have created, but if you have accidentally reached here, then would request you to write about your opinion on
'Soulmates'.
We have heard this term many a times. Some of us even believe in the concept of Soulmates, but do soulmates really exist?
Has anyone found their true soulmate?? If yes then please share your journey of finding your soulmate.
Personally I find it very fairy tale like concept as for me there are no soulmates. Humans are generally sociable in nature so they will live together under any circumstance, but to have that perfect match seems so unreal and fantasy like to me. I have seen couples who are madly in love with each other but still they are not what you call as 'Soulmates'.
So what do you ladies have to say about this? Has God actually created another part of my soul that exists somewhere around me?
Lata
Sat, 2010-10-02 10:20
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Nice topic. Frankly, I haven't understood what that is yet. And, I would like to add that I have been married for twenty years. I haven't heard any of my friends claim to have one either. :0
Mani (my husband), who happens to be reading this page right this moment, agrees with me (with a laugh ofcourse).
jayamohan
Sun, 2010-10-03 07:41
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Soulmates need not be husband and wife, right?
Lata
Sun, 2010-10-03 12:25
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Excellent point. I don't know why majority of us assume to find "soulmates" in our partners.
riya_mrv
Mon, 2010-10-04 06:48
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I know! But it is mainly Indian women who search for soulmates in their husbands
Yes soulmates need not necessarily be your husband. One would be ultra lucky to have one though! But soulmates could be a friend or just any other person who in the first meeting puts you at ease by giving you a feeling that you are talking to yourself, or that you know the person very well!
myownself
Mon, 2010-10-04 07:41
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In the Indian scenario, soulmate, if seen in anyone else other than a spouse, is misunderstood and directly reflects to one's character. But coming to reality, soulmate is very difficult to find or rather get. In an arranged marriage, I always wanted to see a soulmate in my spouse and always denied facts that would prove that my seeing a soulmate there was wrong, just consoling myself that my only soulmate is and can be my spouse. But having spent more than a silver jubilee, I understand that I was wrong. I realised after about 2 decades that the love, respect and care was only as a duty, a social bondage and fear of losing and also defame, as there was no reciprocation for the good feelings I had and one fine day a single sentence from the spouse made me rethink and look back to see whether my assumptions for the spouse being a soulmate were right or wrong.
well, if it comes to a woman, most are brought up with a rule that the husband is everything for her- a monarch, a god or a soulmate. Quite a handful might be really lucky to have friends who can really understand and care and in true terms be soulmates.
The luck of anyone really having a soulmate is most enviable because it is very hard to find one.
jkmrao
Mon, 2010-10-04 08:39
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To all souls, there is only one mate, that is God or nature or universe or whatever you may call. Thus our soulmate is only the God or our own self as God is a part of the self too. The rest are friends, including spouses. The spousal friendship, though, is a special one as it extends over a long period of time, day in and day out. This friendship is so strong that, in course of time, one can read the mind of the other
As the friendship is between two human beings, the frailties in human nature also come to the fore. Any friendship is strong if friends accept the weaker points and character blemishes between themselves as they appreciate the stronger and robust traits. The husband is not a 'svAmi" and the wife is not a "dEvI". Both are human in flesh and blood, subject to the same emotions of divine love, raging anger and occasional disgust. The proportionality of these ultimately determines the elasticity of this friendship. I must say that times have changed. The spousal relationship is more or less on equal terms now than in the past, even though the balance still tilts in favour of men.
Regards! - mOhana
Lata
Mon, 2010-10-04 13:34
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I guess we could stop searching any further for a potential soulmate, now that we've learned a bit more about this from experienced members.
In my opinion, facts such as "the husband is not a 'svAmi" and the wife is not a "dEvI" should be included in the mantras during the wedding, just to make sure it gets ingrained in everyone's minds (by everyone I meant the couple getting married as well as the close relatives who have different expectations out of the bride and the groom). :0
Thank you Jayaji, myownself madam and Mohanaji for your valuable input.
jayamohan
Wed, 2010-10-06 20:09
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Well said, mOhanaji!